Decision: A Perspective

Decision, when I utter this word my mind starts flipping pages of a book called “My Life”. I am sure you must be experiencing the same. You start recollecting the decisions that you have made in your life. How many of us realize that we actually make decisions every moment of our life, be it for a simple reason “which dress do I wear for a party?, What do I prepare for lunch?, Do I really need to take bath on this lazy Sunday?, Should I go for shopping?. Well these are itty-bitty things in our life and are like everyday story. Hence, they hardly matter and we rarely look upon these. But we consider many elements (things) while making a decision.

For example, while dressing for a party, girls spend hours and hours before their cupboards and imagine themselves – “How will I look in this dress, will this ear ring match with the dress?” I must admit to the fact that girls consider many elements while making decisions because they associate those elements with that function and they consider these elements to be of greater importance. Questions are aroused in their mind like what is the occasion, is it a day or night party, is it going to be formal or causal, make up, hand bags, shoes and a here we have a never ending process (phew!!!) :)

Well let’s not have a room for gender bias here. Looking back at the journey of our life I am sure there would be many emotions coming to your heart that can be regret, happiness, lucky, relieved and many others by just remembering the decision that you made in your past life. Why these emotions are still sustained in our minds or heart may be because of THE decision you made has changed your life that you did not plan for and it can be either GOOD or BAD.

But at the first place why THE decision went wrong or right? Wrong, May be because we forgot to consider one of the elements or may be the future element that you considered was not the one you should have considered or may be you were emotionally bound and were not PRACTICAL. Whatever may be the reason the bottom line remains the same “We missed on something”. Right, may be because we were practical enough to consider all the elements that WE CAN or may be we VIEWED goodness in a bad decision or may be we were Lucky enough to land on a right island with treasure.

This word starting with alphabet D leads to 2 different worlds starting with alphabet D again. They are: Destination, where people say my decisions is my destination and Destiny, where people consider their decisions to be destined. I would never want to fall in the latter world, I DON’T want to be destined for anything that I decide on rather I would love to quote my decisions as “my destination”.

Here, I would like to share one of the incidents where I was required to make a major decision between my current job and my goal (Destination) MBA (may not be great deal to many of us but for me it WAS and IS).

Whether I wanted to continue working in the IT firm, have the luxury to make to onsite for 6 months or so and earn few foreign currencies. But I think I never wanted this from my life!! I am very adamant about my goals, be it anything. But in this case, I was on a jelly base where I could not decide which side should go for. Many a times it happened that I stepped towards my goal but in my mind I was stepping back from this decision. I had many things in my mind, it is going to be a good investment, is it going to be very expensive, is it going be alright to take this step, is going fetch me good career?? etc etc a non-stop list of apprehensions that was enough to stop me to take up MBA. Most of the times we get clutched by various things of our life that’s makes us to COMPROMISE. But is this right?? The answer is straight “No”.

I read this on a poster that my father got when we were child. Which said “We live once if we live RIGHT once is enough”. I never understood this line when I was child; I did ask my father what it meant. My father dutifully fulfilled the responsibility to explain me what it meant. Trust me!! Since then this statement had made its place in my mind. It has such an impression in my mind that I always relate this to my decisions. This time when I was so confused I asked myself “Am I doing right to myself by not taking up MBA and continuing the job??” my mind has a very simple answer “No” again. Then why do this?? But as I mentioned, I agree that most of us are not lucky or rather fateful enough to have all the things and there would be no reason to compromise. Most of the people I know have targets in their mind, they know what is good and what is not, they have the ability to reach the destination BUT they are not provided with all the things where they don’t have to compromise. Having everything still they have to compromise.

You are absolutely WRONG!!!! I hate to agree this that things get impossible most of the times. According to me nothing is impossible. Everything on this earth is meant to be possible. If you have the courage to think about your goal, about your needs and wants then why would you sit down for one single thing that is not letting you to achieve your goal?? This makes the difference. If you compromise, you are the mere loser and if you don’t you make yourself proud.

Objective of this blog is simple, please wake up, realize that everything we do, we do it because we know “WE CAN DO IT” then don’t let your decisions be destined by compromising. Let the decisions of your life be your Destinations – This is how you make the difference.

But story remains never ending, I was welcomed to MBA world with global recession. Any person in my place would curse this decision as why the hell did I take up MBA. Job market is lowest possible, my investments are higher than ever etc etc.. but just think the other side what’s happening with companies during recession they are too facing the heat. They have also compromised on many things, no hikes, no promotions, layoffs. For me Wowwww!!! Am doing MBA I am learning at a bad time, I am so lucky that its recession!!! I get to know many things that I should do when the world is at its worst.

It’s Superb because I have ONE MORE CHALLENGE TO FACE, ONE MORE DECISION TO MAKE :)

Hope you liked it!! Thanks for spending your precious time reading it through. Have a good day!!

Innocence or Stupidness

A human being experiences different phases in his life. As we all know they are childhood, youth, maturity and old age. Everyone would agree with me that every phase teaches us many things that were/are important. If asked “Which is the best phase of your life?” What would you say?? For me it would be childhood, when innocence was running way ahead in every aspect of my life. I leave this up to you to decide how you consider these incidents as - innocence or stupidness??

Going back to the thoughts and picking up the tape of childhood from the stack narrating few of my moments when I felt I was innocent to the heights. Scratching my head for so long!!!! Trying to go as back of my times as possible but I could not recollect beyond my 3rd class.

Once, our family was travelling by train to our home state Punjab. “Train” Wow!! I think every kid loved to travel in train. When I never understood how train changed the tracks but busy throwing wrappers to check how far I can see to it once it’s out. I spilled water to see the after effect and never understood that it would splash on the person sitting on the other side of my seat. :)

Once I got up at the midnight because I had a nightmare and wanted to sleep with mom. I was placed on “Upper Berth” It took me 1 hour to get down because I was busy answering my thoughts “If I jumped either I would break my leg or there would be hole in the train and I would go straight on tracks” (considered my jump very powerful). The thoughts did not stop here “What if at the same moment train is crossing over the bridge??” When train use to pass over the bridge I started to pray God “Oh God!! Please let all screws of the Bridge be intact and we cross this bridge safely”. According to me if 1 screw was missing the whole bridge would collapse (I doubted the Construction :)).

Coming to another experience- I loved “Chikki”, when ever we got Chikki. I reserved few for myself to relish it slowly and ensured that I did not consume it all at once. Some times it happened that I could not have it more often because mom scolded me that I would spoil my teeth with more of sweetness. That fraction can anybody think what would have come into my mind?? I thought “Jis din mein paise kamaungi us din ek poora kamra Chikki se bhar dungi aur kisi ko bhi khane nahi dungi” . Now, I think it was a bad idea also I don’t like sweets anymore.

I would also love to narrate one of the fabulous incidents and this time it was not me but my sister. We seemed very logical but we were very innocent to decide as what we thought was “right??”Me, my sister and our good friend were having Grapes. Unfortunately grapes with seeds, the moment my sister and me had the grapes and swallowed the seeds too. Our good friend freaked my sister out saying that “Tune seeds kyun khaye?? Seeds ko nahi khana chahiye varna peit (Stomach) me pedh (plant) hojayega” . Well, this was enough to have a crying orchestra for the whole day.

Parents had the difficult time convincing her that she is fine and there will be no plant growing. We had fun too teasing her that we would cut the plant as it grew out of her mouth :). Guess What??? Today, she is doing her masters in science (Biotechnology).

Sitting back and thinking of those moments makes me smile. I was really very innocent!! Today there are many voices that say "Kids of this generation have lost their innocence".Undoubtedly, I agree to this fact but I fail to justify it in this particular blog.

Hope you enjoyed reading it. Have a great time!!

My First Blog :)

Ahem ahem!! This looks more like giving a speech to my friends. Well, while thinking as what to write in my fisrt Blog. Ideas were oozing out of my mind ranging from political, economical to environmental. However, I think at this moment I would not write on any of them because I am running short on my time. But wish to mention my experince of "My First Blog" :).

Wow!! it feels amazing to write my views and feelings, it feels like I am writing my personal diary that can be accessed by my friends. Its more like talking to my friends sitting before me presenting my view on some topic and having an informal talk, exchanging of views.

While I was writing my first line of this blog, it was more like formal (You can notice the word Speech). But gradually as words are pouring out of mind its more onto "Myself". What is that I want to say to my friends, what is so important for them to know? It's more on my thoughts, beliefs, reasoning, learning, perception et al. Hence, I named this blog as "Noesis".

Which means a psycological results of various attributes mentioned above. This word is synonym of "Knowledge", which is nothing but "Collective Information". One of the professors (Mr. Frank McDonald) has rightly mentioned in his class (International Business Strategy) that "Every information sometime later acts as a knowledge".

Well, I can write a thesis on knowledge alone, its such a debate. Very well, talking about my experience "I'm Loving it". I can't wait to blog on my favourite topics. I hope you will enjoy reading my blogs and enthusiastically respond to each of them beacuse your view "Does Matters".